Celebrating a Don’t Sweat Mom:
Tamara from YouAreFIERCE.com

Dont' Sweat the Small Stuff for Moms

Biggest Challenge of Being a Mom

Tamara: Biggest challenge of being a mom is remembering to disconnect in order to truly connect with my kids. I spend 85% of my time online whether it’s on Twitter, Facebook, emails, updating the website, blogging, etc. When my kids are home from school I really have to make an effort to turn off my Blackberry and focus solely on them. As an entrepreneur, it’s tough to not work 24/7 but when all is said and done I have to remind myself that my kids deserve a mom who gives them complete attention. I don’t want to be remembered as the mom who was too busy to talk because I was attached to my laptop. Sadly, unless I make that conscience effort to disconnect, I have a tough time reconnecting with my family. That is definitely not living a FIERCE life.

Being a Don’t Sweat Mom Means

Tamara: Being a Don’t Sweat Moms means learning to let go. Let go of the idea that you “should” be a Betty Crocker mom and start embracing who YOU are. There is no cookie cutter mommy mold that you “should” fit into. You had an identity before you had kids so there is no reason you should change the core of who you are JUST because you had a kid. Let go of the guilt. Let go of the need to be “perfect.” Let go of your own body image issues because your kids will learn your insecurities. Let go of the need to be right; it’s impossible and emotionally draining.

A Wish For Other Moms

Tamara: It’s natural to stress about our parenting choice and focus on the negative in our lives but what are you teaching your kids? That worrying solves problems? We all know that it doesn’t so try this method: when you feel yourself stressing about life, kids, or relationships, EMBRACE the negative feelings, allow yourself to feel the stress, sadness, anger or whatever and then let it go. Have a good cry, hit a punching bag, release the negative emotions on a physical level. Once you feel a state of calm, shift your mindset to something positive whether it’s an empowering quote, affirmations or anything that makes you happy. You can be happy. You can choose to live positively. Life happens, it’s how you deal with it that makes the difference.

Tamara Plant has worked tirelessly through MOM magazine to change the stereotype of how a mom “should” be perceived, “should” act and “should be. She lived through an abusive childhood only to become successful in her career as a sports journalist and now publisher.

She believes in empowering other women and does so through YouAreFIERCE.com, a website celebrating women who make a difference, which she recently launched as a transition from MOM Magazine. Her signature event is the FIERCE Women of the Year awards, which she launched in 2010. She challenges women to work together and celebrate other people’s success.

She inspires others with her resilience to overcome the many obstacles that have been in her way, and she empowers other women to be their authentic selves after becoming a mother. In 2010 she was named the Canadian Hot Momma’s Project Case Study winner, telling her story of growing up with sexual, physical and emotional abuse, as well as her battle with depression.

Celebrating a Don’t Sweat Mom:
Gina from Mom-Blog.com

Biggest Challenge of Being a Mom

Gina:  Balancing all the things I have to do and still finding some me time!

Being a Don’t Sweat Mom Means

Gina: Being a Don’t Sweat Mom means I don’t have time in my life to sweat the little things, so I don’t bother anymore. It means I’m more patient, less frustrated, and don’t care so much about messes. Works for me!

A Wish For Other Moms

Gina: Do the best you can but remember you can’t control everything, for example, the future. Your kids may or may not go to college, may or may not get married, may or may not have kids. Don’t focus on that, but rather teach them love, respect, service, and let them know their true value. The rest will take care of itself.

Favorite Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Moms Chapter

Gina: “You are Enough as You Are” is my favorite chapter. The title says it all!

Gina is a blogger specializing in raising kids with disabilities to have a fantastic future, and supporting their amazing moms at Mom-Blog.com. Her Facebook fan page includes deals, giveaways, and commentary on allergen-free and organic living, biomedical cures, and the whole autism debate.

Celebrating a Don’t Sweat Mom:
Jayne from MoanaSaves.com

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

Biggest Challenge of Being a Mom

Jayne: Being a mom is like living the life of a juggler. As a mom I’m constantly juggling my children’s needs and schedules, along with mine and my husband’s. I believe one of the biggest challenges of being a mom is remembering to not let the routine aspects detract from what’s the most important, showing love for and teaching my children.

Being a Don’t Sweat Mom Means

Jayne: Being a Don’t Sweat Mom means picking your battles and finding balance in your life. I’ve been a mom for 10 years and I’ve experienced periods where I neglected my personal needs which reduced my reservoir of strength and my ability to find peace in my role as a mother. As I take better care of myself I can better care for my family. It’s true that if ‘Mom isn’t happy then nobody’s happy.’ 

A Wish For Other Moms

Jayne: Have a positive perspective. Motherhood has many phases, from the ‘up all night with a newborn’ phase to the ‘up all night waiting for the teenager to come home’ phase. Just try to find joy in each phase. When you’re in the trenches of sleep deprivation or stress it’s easy to feel like things will never get better when in fact this phase will be over so quickly you’ll someday long for those quiet nights when you were up late with your child, comforting and caring for them.

Favorite Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff Chapter

Jayne: My favorite chapter was: Mother Knows Best. “Our challenges are often aggrendized by our fears.” (page 99) My personality is that of a worrier and I’m always making mole hills into mountains. This chapter reminded me that I do know my children best and therefore I will (most of the time) know how best to help them if I take baby steps and calmly think things through. “Often, our worries and concerns are bigger enemies then the issue we face.” (page 101) Overly stressing and worrying only raises tensions and makes problem solving more difficult. Plus, there’s no need to fret over ‘what might be’ because no matter how much we wish for it we’ll never have the power to control the future. (Sad but true!)

Jayne lives on the North Shore of Oahu with her husband and three daughters. She love to read, hike, cook, and play at the beach with her family. Something unique about Jayne is that she loves finding new recipes and rarely repeats cooking the same meal. Her recipe blog is Dishlist.blogspot.com. She also blogs at MoanaSaves.com about products and tips that make home life easier and more fun.

Celebrating a Don’t Sweat Mom:
Joy from PardonMyPoppet.com

 

Biggest Challenge of Being a Mom

Joy:  My biggest challenge is having the energy! Being a first time Mum at 35 threw me for a real loop! Add to that questioning if what I’m doing is best for my daughter, and worrying about her constantly, sometimes I wonder how Mums stay sane!

Being a Don’t Sweat Mom Means

Joy:  Being a Don’t Sweat Moms means trusting that I know my child better than anyone else on this earth. I may not be the perfect Mum, but my daughter still thinks I am!

A Wish For Other Moms

Joy:  This time with our children passes do swiftly! Let’s not waste a moment on little things that don’t matter, and focus on the little things that do! Kisses, hugs, smiles!

Favorite Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff Chapter

Joy:  Chapter 43 – How To Speak To Our Kids About The Big Stuff really struck a chord with me. We can’t always shelter them from the hard stuff in life, nor should we.

If you had told Joy, even 3 years ago, that she would be a Don’t Sweat Mom, she would have laughed! After struggling for 13 years with infertility, she have found herself, quite unexpectedly the author of the popular parenting blog, Pardon My Poppet. Here she shares her day-to-day life, tips, tricks, recipes, reviews and giveaways. Visit her blog and participate in the discussion of what it means to be a parent today!