Biggest Challenge of Being a Mom
Tamara: Biggest challenge of being a mom is remembering to disconnect in order to truly connect with my kids. I spend 85% of my time online whether it’s on Twitter, Facebook, emails, updating the website, blogging, etc. When my kids are home from school I really have to make an effort to turn off my Blackberry and focus solely on them. As an entrepreneur, it’s tough to not work 24/7 but when all is said and done I have to remind myself that my kids deserve a mom who gives them complete attention. I don’t want to be remembered as the mom who was too busy to talk because I was attached to my laptop. Sadly, unless I make that conscience effort to disconnect, I have a tough time reconnecting with my family. That is definitely not living a FIERCE life.
Being a Don’t Sweat Mom Means
Tamara: Being a Don’t Sweat Moms means learning to let go. Let go of the idea that you “should” be a Betty Crocker mom and start embracing who YOU are. There is no cookie cutter mommy mold that you “should” fit into. You had an identity before you had kids so there is no reason you should change the core of who you are JUST because you had a kid. Let go of the guilt. Let go of the need to be “perfect.” Let go of your own body image issues because your kids will learn your insecurities. Let go of the need to be right; it’s impossible and emotionally draining.
A Wish For Other Moms
Tamara: It’s natural to stress about our parenting choice and focus on the negative in our lives but what are you teaching your kids? That worrying solves problems? We all know that it doesn’t so try this method: when you feel yourself stressing about life, kids, or relationships, EMBRACE the negative feelings, allow yourself to feel the stress, sadness, anger or whatever and then let it go. Have a good cry, hit a punching bag, release the negative emotions on a physical level. Once you feel a state of calm, shift your mindset to something positive whether it’s an empowering quote, affirmations or anything that makes you happy. You can be happy. You can choose to live positively. Life happens, it’s how you deal with it that makes the difference.
Tamara Plant has worked tirelessly through MOM magazine to change the stereotype of how a mom “should” be perceived, “should” act and “should be. She lived through an abusive childhood only to become successful in her career as a sports journalist and now publisher.
She believes in empowering other women and does so through YouAreFIERCE.com, a website celebrating women who make a difference, which she recently launched as a transition from MOM Magazine. Her signature event is the FIERCE Women of the Year awards, which she launched in 2010. She challenges women to work together and celebrate other people’s success.
She inspires others with her resilience to overcome the many obstacles that have been in her way, and she empowers other women to be their authentic selves after becoming a mother. In 2010 she was named the Canadian Hot Momma’s Project Case Study winner, telling her story of growing up with sexual, physical and emotional abuse, as well as her battle with depression.